It is almost here. February 14th. Valentine's Day. The day when many of us feel pressured to declare and show our love in grand gestures and gifts and surprises.
Well, I am here to tell you: please do not bother. If you have not paid attention to your relationship in the other 364 days of the year, what you do on Valentine's Day is unlikely to make up for it.
Why? Because the health of our relationships is not about grand gestures done for special occassions. It is about the small everyday things. The daily moments of connection, small kindnesses and acts of love and commitment that happen during the course of every day lives. Things that are easy to do
and just as easy to forget about when life gets in the way.
So while "don't sweat the small stuff" may be popular life advice, it is not helpful for relationships. In relationships,
it is all about the small
stuff and it would benefit us to start sweating!
If your relationship could do with a little [or major] boost, do check out
30 Simple Practices to Grow Great Love. It is an online program with 30 days of inspiration, motivation and encouragement to reboot and revitalize your long term relationship. It is a Valentine's gift that will keep benefitting you for a long long time [and it costs less
than a dozen red roses on Valentines'!]
Here is the link to sign up.